I work with women every day and I listen to their stories, their pain and the pleasure. I hear such terrible stories, feel great anger and fury for the collective wounds of woman and yet I see the beauty in their stories, as I watch women overcome great adversity in their lives to become the proud Queens they were born to be. I see women stepping into their heart, where their power resides and thrive.
I hear stories of women who struggle to believe in their own worth, their power and their place in the world. Women whose voices are muted under the strain of living. Pain buried deep inside.
I also see the darker side of women in the world today. The angst and anger, the pain and sorrow that they project at others, the bitching and backstabbing, the gossiping and judging, the attachment to possessions and the way we look and yet I do not judge any woman. I feel empathy for every woman who is alive today.
I hold one fundamental truth in my work with women. Every woman is a diamond and the rough is the world we live in.
That’s right. Every woman is a diamond. Your inner diamond is your energy, your life force. Your soul, awareness, pure love, Kundalini, your mojo, your love juice, your energy is your diamond and your diamond creates your life. Everything in your life is a direct result of your energy, your inner diamond.
When I see a woman on her knees, emotionally spent, I whisper inside “she doesn’t know she is a diamond”.
When I see women attacking other women, my heart cries “She is scared, she doesn’t know the power she holds within”.
When I see a woman in fear, I want to shout “She has a rock inside of her, a rock so strong that nothing will ever break it”.
When I hear a woman bitching because of another woman’s beauty, I want to stamp my foot and say “do you really think what another woman looks like, compares with the true beauty of your diamond inside”
I understand why this happens. The world we live in is the rough. Yes, we women in the western world have never had it so good yet the assault on women is still at all-time high. The war on women is subtle yet it is a war.
From the fairy-tales we are told as a child, the indoctrination into a “look outside yourself for your worth” mentality that begins as soon as we watch our first cartoon, that starts a lifetime of subjecting ourselves to advertising and propaganda of what we should be.
Our first day at school, where we are given a uniform, taught how to stand in line and behave i.e. comply only to have our heads filled with crap for the next 18 years, as our individuality is slowly knocked out of us.
Where creativity and imagination are side-lined to a couple of lessons a week whilst we learn the importance of money, how to count it and make it whilst selling our soul out for a job we will ultimately hate and how to spend it on crap to make ourselves feel better for living a life less than we are capable of. No disrespect to the many wonderful teachers in the world. This is the system.
We are not taught to live from a heart-centred place. There are no classes on empathy, compassion, kindness and creativity in terms of our ability to create in life. We are not taught how to love ourselves, never mind how to love others. Instead, we are told a fairy-tale from childhood; how one day a man will enter our lives, the one, and then we will be complete. We keep looking outside of ourselves.
And if we are lucky, we won’t be the one in three women who suffer sexual abuse as a child and have our innocence destroyed, our diamond polluted in the most vile way and our foundation for life in tatters. We might also avoid physical, emotional and mental abuse.
We arrive in adulthood believing that we are ready to start making decisions for ourselves, our life is our choice, yet the conditioning from our childhood, belief system and values of society have already eroded our diamond. We are taught that we live in a survivalist world, time to get to work, start earning money and start spending big time. Imagination? Creativity? Freedom? Nah, that’s not the real world.
And that’s before the real onslaught begins as we are subjected to the perfect vision of what a woman must look like with a barrage of media, most of which is photo-shopped to further enhance the apparent beauty we must all aspire to. We are taught we must look and act sexy when what we really should embrace is our inner sensuality.
So we look outside of ourselves. We seek instant gratification. We eat too much, drink too much and bitch too much. We buy crap to make ourselves feel better, waste our creativity and imagination by watching television and live in constant fear of what other people think. So we judge others to protect ourselves. We keep looking outside of ourselves.
Our inner diamond is buried under all of this. A diamond in the rough. Our energy is consumed by surviving, by making money and by trying to feel we are worthy to live in this world. There’s no energy left to fire up our Heart space to feel empathy, passion and purpose. We are consumed by trying to survive and still we are unaware that our true power and beauty lies within.
And that is the rough, the adversity that a woman must overcome, including her own individual wounds she has collected along the way.
How does a woman overcome such adversity? She wakes up. She gets out of her fears and her energy rises into her heart and unlocks her inner gift of intuition, healing and creative abilities. She cares for herself. She sets boundaries and limits. She honours her need for creativity, imagination and playtime. She stops looking outside herself for validation, her worth, her ability to love herself. She realises that she is a diamond in the rough and all she needs to do is shine.
And once a woman steps back into her heart space, her power, she rises like the fierce Queen she was born to be. She believes in herself, her place in the world and she finds her voice.
She stops bitching, backstabbing and fighting others, realising she is only fighting herself. Instead she steadies her gaze over the rough that is our world and she is most displeased. She drops all her illusions and she is ready to do what she was born to do. She is a passion filled creator. Ready to get her hands dirty in setting the world to rights. She finds her purpose and starts creating a wave in her own life and she shines on.
She realises it’s ok to make money, it’s ok to buy things. Its fantastic to take care of yourself and look well. But never at the expense of living a heart-centred life, of passion and finding your purpose.
Women have a vast and raw potential of creative energy inside of them and that is their diamond. It’s not complicated, it doesn’t take years to study. Its understanding your energy, your inner diamond and how it works. How to properly care for yourself and your energy and how to protect your energy from others.
(c) Samantha Wilson 2016. All Rights Reserved