There is a saying “”Don’t forget you’re human, it’s ok to have a meltdown. Just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed” and it certainly rings true.
Usually, we have metaphorically landed on our bum in some way, shape or form when we finally acknowledge we are not ok. Sometimes we have to stay down for a little while whilst we regather and regroup but it is imperative that we pick ourselves up. Not being ok is not a destination we want to end at, it’s the start of a journey to get back on track from whatever brought us down in the first place.
I see the challenges and difficulties that arise in my life as prompts for course correction or change. Life has an uncanny way of showing us what we need to change and for a long time, I ignored those prompts at my peril which led to episodes of not being ok. Life would come back bigger and louder until I finally got the message. I’ve become adept at spotting the prompts and make the necessary changes to avoid the carnage that could follow from the wrecking ball of life if I chose to ignore them.
It’s also important to be honest with ourselves when we reach the point of not being ok as to whether we have consciously or subconsciously brought ourselves to that point.
Make no bones of it, the playground of life is not a fair place.
Circumstances and people will always get in the way and sometimes cannot be controlled but we can control how we respond. Have our fears led us to this place, our conditioning, our actions or desire to control? It is liberating to be able to acknowledge how we self-sabotage and bring ourselves down regardless of the reasons behind it. We can then change so it doesn’t happen again.
If you find yourself repeating the same mistakes again and again in different circumstances, life is showing you what you need to change. Without making those changes, you will keep repeating the same experiences. Life is prompting you to embrace the changes so that you can live a much happier life.
So it really is ok not to be ok, just don’t unpack there. See it as the start line of a journey onto a much better place. It may take time but identify and implement the changes you need to make. The next time life throws a curve ball remember to shout “Plot Twist”, be kind to yourself, embrace the changes you need to make and move on.
(c) Samantha Wilson 2016. All Rights Reserved.